Lust in Paradise: How to Deal With “Working Girls” in Thailand
An informal guide on how to shop and deal with prostitutes aka “working girls” and enjoy your “monkey business” while traveling to Thailand.
Ever since the American GIs made Thailand a top R&R getaway during the Vietnam War, it has become a de facto mecca for providing great entertainment in sex related activities. Bangkok is the world’s leading destination by international tourists, and surpassed London since 2013 with over 60% of these tourists being men and 70% of these men being sex tourists (unofficial stats), this in addition to a large number of male expats well settled in the country. Consequently, it is no surprise that sex related entertainment or business is a significant part of the tourism activities in Thailand. Enough about the boring facts and figures of Thailand’s tourism industry.
We would like to share with our readers some useful tips when engaging in “monkey business” while vacationing in Thailand, specifically on how to shop and deal with working girls. Keep in mind that Thailand offers lots of sex related venues such as massage parlors, go-go bars, fish bowl, BJ shops etc., this article's focus is specifically on individual freelance working girls not affiliated with any establishment, similar to independent contractors in other industries.
Set a clear budget
Set a clear “extracurricular activity” budget and stick with it. Treat this activity like all your other vacation activities (lodging, food, transportation, cultural events etc.) where specific budget is dedicated to each category. Some flexibility applies under certain circumstances, but be sure those circumstances are worthwhile.
Think wisely when negotiating
Always negotiate for the best possible price, as there is no set market price for what you should pay to any working girl. Treat this as you would towards all other vacation activities and shop for the best price. Treat each girl with kindness and decency, but don’t let your personal emotions interfere with the negotiation i.e. ego, pity/white knight syndrome, shyness, insecurity etc. All working girls see you as an ATM machine, and every smile, touch, word, displays of affection and sensuality are done to achieve maximum financial gains, and to believe otherwise is simply an illusion. You need to be clever and negotiate a “reasonable” price for yourself.
Price may vary based on length of time, location, hour of the day/night, your appearance/personality, and even the number of ejaculations etc. Many of these girls would ask for drinks, food, and taxi fare as well. Again, this is strictly business for them, and they will try to extract any possible benefits from you. Some are very skillful in their approach while others are not.
Do your research
Do your research on the ideal spots for finding the “right” working girl that is most suitable to your budget, price point, travel itinerary, and other important factors relevant to you. This would help minimize or avoid time wasting efforts while maximizing your overall pleasure.
Note: see our recommended list for various locations, establishments, and reviews to find freelance working girls for sex in Bangkok.
Take possible bad experiences into account
Don’t expect every working girl to be a great experience, some are not good service providers and you simply have to deal with any unsatisfactory experience in a calm manner. Not all working girls are created equal as personality, linguistic fluency, experience, and sexual skills differ across them. Obtaining satisfactory services is a matter of luck as there are no “market reviews” to help you with the shopping process.
Most of the working girls will market themselves in the best possible way much like other products/services, and most of them follow similar approach or techniques. Your observation, intuition/gut feeling, and other communication techniques are helpful in choosing a working girl, but it will not guarantee that you choose the right girl every time. Odds are, you will have some unsatisfactory experiences along with many great ones.
In the event that your experience is unsatisfactory, be sure to remain calm and do not display anger or aggression under any circumstance, just take it in stride and move on. In brief, be prepared to experience “buyer’s remorse/regret” at any time.
Note: the proverbial saying that “you get what you pay for” does not apply here because the standard price mechanism as an effective way of filtering out inferior products and services does not work in this informal market.
Avoid a love relationship (don't be a fool)
Don’t fall for the “love trap” as it can lead to a very slippery slope full of disappointment and regret. Enjoy these experiences to the fullest and treat the girls with courtesy, but attempting to form a love relationship with any working girl because she is satisfying your fantasy and emotional void is something that I would not recommend. These experiences can be emotionally and physically intoxicating, and addictive in comparison to the boring life you might be living back home, and this psychological blind spot can lead one to act in a very irrational manner.
You might find some of these working girls quite sincere, honest, and sweet within the boundary of their profession, but their primary objective is financial, no more no less.
Always treat the girls with respect and kindness
Always treat the girls with respect and kindness. You know the rule: Treat someone well, and you will be well treated. Some men think they have the right to treat the girls like garbage, and disrespect them because the payment gives them the right to act out any indecent behavior without consequence.
Such negative behavior will often produce undesirable results. That is, either a girl will not tolerate it and leave, or she stays but feels disgusted and gives a half-hearted service without any warmth and pleasant human interaction. In other words, it will be a plain cold "mechanistic" sexual act where the only thing that matters is a quick finish.
In contrast, if you treat a girl well, you will get a great girlfriend-like TLC service, all in a more relaxed atmosphere. She will try to create a deeper emotional and physical bond with you, be more affectionate and passionate, all of which lead to a better experience.
Some girls are emotionally drained
To elaborate more on Tip 4 and Tip 6, we would like to caution our readers that by treating a girl well doesn't always guarantee a great service. There are many working girls that have become emotionally and physically drained by years of engaging in the trade, which is no different than any other professionals being burned out by their work.
It should come as no surprise to anyone that many of these girls have been dealing with various low life men i.e. psychopath, drug addicts, mentally ill, aggressive and rude - you name it. Consequently, many of these girls might be physically present, but her mind is nearly absent, and will give as little effort as possible. She won't care if you have a great personality or good looks. The trick is to engage in small talk and feel the girl out as much as you can before buying her service.
Many girls are engaging this trade to have a more luxurious lifestyle
Do not assume that all freelance working girls are engaging in this trade because of terrible and desperate family or personal circumstances. Rather, many of them are doing this as an easy way to achieve and maintain a more luxurious lifestyle.
Given the relatively low wage in the Thailand economy as compared to the Western standard, these girls can earn a month worth of salary within a matter of few days from the sex trade. In addition, many men would take the girls out to fancy restaurants and bars for partying, and even go shopping together. This is quite different from what the working girls do in many Western countries, in that, the working girls in Thailand provide more than just sex related services, they are full time companion and vacation guide for their male clients. As a side note, many male expats in Thailand employ the service of a female companion who provides a whole list of services including sex, cooking, cleaning, translator, and other day to day activities.
Thus, it's tempting for many “regular” girls to work as a freelancer, as this trade gives them the ability to afford holidays, nice condos, clothing/jewelry, and other amenities. In brief, when negotiating with any working girl, you should not assume that your financial payment goes towards supporting her desperately poor family, rather, it’s an extra income for her to purchase that newest iPhone or Gucci bag.
Again, many of these working girls are quite sincere, honest, and very sweet within the boundary of their profession, but their primary objective is financial, no more no less.